What's In Your Control?

Has anyone ever had the experience that as soon as you make a big decision in your life, all of a sudden everything seems to turn to crap?

Yeah...

Not completely, but it definitely seemed that way on the surface right...

When going through changes in your life, especially major changes, you will have to go through transition periods where everything seems to be even MORE messed up than it was before. It's like cleaning the garage (or your room). If it's pretty messy in there and you want to clean it up, the first thing you need to do is empty an area to sort through it. Like dumping everything out of an old box or drawer onto the ground. That makes it even messier. Then, you sort through it and toss out what you no longer use or need or want. Right? Some people try to clean the entire room all at once and then it takes weeks to get it all back in order. Anyway, that happens internally as well.

A few weeks ago, I was on fire. Business was hot, my team was building and growing and moving forward quickly. I went to convention in LA and was inspired and enflammed even more than before with a desire and resolve to do whatever it took to get to where I wanted to be. Nothing was ever going to stop me ever again...

Now, things had slowed to a crawl because I was away for a week and many things came up in the lives of those around me, so that at first everything looked like just a trickle compared to the previous months' activity.

Not fun.

So what did I do to get through this plateau and on to the next level?

Well, we have a saying around here. It's this: there are only two things you can control, your attitude and your activity. You can't control what others think or do, or the circumstances around you. All you can control is you. And that's all you need to control.

So I looked at my attitude. What was I focused on? What were the dominant thoughts in my mind? I noticed that they were telling me to take a step back to clear my mind, take some time to read and learn more, and re-focus my energies. A really important shift is happening inside of me, going from someone who's been an employee and part-time entrepreneur for so long into being a full-time business owner and builder. It can be done smoothly as long as you realise that you cannot do what you did as an employee and make it as a business owner. You must become a business owner and builder in your mind first, start thinking like one, before the reality around you shifts too. And always change your negative thoughts into positive thoughts, no matter what happens, because negative thoughts will suck the enthusiasm out of you and put you on a downward spiral.

You WILL have negative thoughts, guaranteed, and many things WILL go wrong. As long as you realise this you won't be so surprised. From there, you can then change the directions of your thoughts into a constantly more positive perspective of the situation.

You might be sick to your stomach of people who are positive, but it's a very important lesson to learn. The difference here is that you want to be more than thinking positively. You want positive ACTION as well.

That's the second part you can control, "your activity".

So I looked at mine. What was I doing? Was I doing the necessary activities to move my business forward? Was I making the calls, the contacts, doing the necessary follow-ups and paperwork? On the whole it seemed like I was, but was I doing enough? Could I do more? Yes I could. Was I stepping out of my comfort zone into new territory to push me to learn and grow? Hmm...

Asking myself those questions helped me to pin-point a few areas to focus on, and what I needed to do to improve both my attitude and my activity in regards to the changes I was implementing in my life.

After about two weeks of this, I'm almost back to where I was in terms of having lots on the go and feeling amazing as I see my goals move a little bit closer each day.

I'm also a lot wiser in terms of learning to BE the person I need to be to bring into my life the success I dream about.

Could you apply this concept of "attitude and activity" in your life?

CHB

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