Unisexual Sex?

What do women want? What do men want? Which of the two is the easier question to answer? I've asked myself these and so many other questions about men and women over the years. I've studied both men and women from head to toe and from the inside out, psychologically and physiologically.

As far as I can tell, and contrary to what Mr. Freud is famous for saying, women are not that difficult to understand. Women -in general- grew up wanting to be swept off their feet, to feel like they are in a love story. Men, of course, are a little bit more simple and direct in their desires. Other than that though, we are all basically the same, with the same needs and wants, all part of the human condition.

We all desire to be happy. We all yearn for love. We all want to be free. We all want to be with someone who makes us feel alive and helps to bring out the best in us. In essence, we all want the best we can get, and to be the best we can be. Someone to compliment our personality and help us grow. Whatever that means to us.

Of course, there will always be surprises. Why? Because, while both men and women have the same basic reality as pretty much "sexless" or "asexual" or "unisexual" spiritual beings, capable of incarnating our spirits as either sex for a physical existence, once we are in that physical body our experience of the world is usually very different.

Boys are treated and raised one way, and girls another. Hormones affect the body differently as well. So yes, we do start out as basically the same "energy", brought to "life" from the same Source. And yet the experience is drastically different. This causes us to perceive, interpret and respond to the same situations in our own individual way.

This also applies to every individual person, for we are all unique but generally groups that have some of the same experiences tend to think and act alike, and to gather together.

Now, how does knowing this help anyone?

It is all in how you use this information my friend.

Remember, we are all essentially the same, yet we filter the world differently and so react differently to events. Remember this, and focus on what we all desire to experience: happiness, love, being alive, freedom, being our best. Remember that we all search for these things, and we all do what we believe we must in order to achieve these things. Whatever we do, we just don't know better.

We all do the best that we can, being who we are at that moment.

That is the most important lesson to remember when dealing with people, yourself included. And its remembering this that allows you to forgive. And forgiving yourself and others is essential to living well.

We all want the same things. We all do the best that we can. And we all go in different directions. Funny huh? Hey, if everyone was the same, we would all die of boredom or go crazy to avoid it. Don't try to be like everyone else. Comformity has its uses in some situations, but boredom is never welcome. So don't be boring.

What I suggest, and what I practice myself, is to spend a little bit of time to figure out what these concepts mean to you:

Love (warmth, comfort, passion, trust, etc.)
Happiness (joy, contentment, allowing, peace...)
Aliveness (excitement, adventure, living, moving, energy, etc.)
Freedom (release, money, power, achieving dreams...)
Being (who you really are, who you can really be...)

And then to develop them in yourself, in whatever way feels right for you. At the same time, find out how you can help transmit and awaken those qualities in others. Since pretty much everybody and everything in the entire world search for these things, developing these qualities will make you incredibly attractive, and happier, no matter what (or how much) your sex.

So men, women, we are all the same. It is what we call the human condition. It comes with the territory. Our temporary physical experience on earth. What will you do with your time here?

Charles

P.S. I won't tell you to think about the act of sex as being between two asexual or unisexual spirits though... unless you're into that sort of thing.

Hehe.

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